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• IMPROVE THE FAMILY ATTITUDE
  

• HELP REGAIN YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
  

Do You Need Nar-Anon? (A Questionnaire for Parent, Spouse, Relatives, etc.)

Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can.

1. Do you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for your child?
   

2. Do you have reason not to trust your child?
   

3. Is it becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations?
   

4. Do you lie awake worrying about your child?
   

5. Is your child missing school often without your knowledge?
   

6. Is your spouse missing work and the bills piling up?
   

7. Are the savings mysteriously disappearing?
   

8. Are the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your marriage?
   

9. Are you asking yourself "What's wrong"? and "Is it my fault"?
   

10. Are your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what you might find?
    

11. Are normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent?
    

12. Are you canceling your social functions with vague excuses?
    

13. Are you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home?
    

14. Is concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty stomach and extreme anxiety?
    

15. Is your spouse/child easily irritated by minute matters? Does your whole life seem a nightmare?
    

16. Are you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of embarrassment?
    

17. Are your attempts at control frustrating?
    

18. Do you over compensate and try not to make waves?
    

19. Do you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps?
    

20. Are the lifestyle and friends of the child/spouse changing?

If you have answered YES to four or more of these questions, NAR-ANON may be able to give you the answers.

What is Co-Dependency?

• My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.
  

• My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
  

• Your struggles affect my serenity.
  

• My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or pain.
  

• My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
  

• My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
  

• My mental attention is focused on manipulating you "to do it my way."
  

• My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
  

• My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
  

• My own hobbies and interests are put aside.
  

• My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
  

• Your clothing a personal appearance is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
  

• Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
  

• I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel.
  

• I am not aware of what I want but of what you want.
  

• I am not aware, I assume.
  

• The dreams I have of my future are linked to you.
  

• My fear of rejection determines what I say and do.
  

• My fear of your anger determines what I say and do.
  

• I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.
  

• My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.
  

• I put my values aside in order to connect with you.
  

• I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.
  

• The quality of life is in relation to the quality of yours.